I was at my moms a couple of weeks ago and we were talking about her starting a blog or a Facebook page/group supporting partners of men with prostate cancer. She made the statement that she isn't sure that she wants to commit that much time to managing and maintaining a Facebook page. I was trying to explain to her that it wouldn't take that much time. While she was trying to explain to me that she is afraid that she is too OCD, which I should understand.
It was at that point that I made the statement. "I only OCD my life. Not yours".
Isn't that kinda true for everyone?
Everyone sees things differently. Everyone approaches problems different. The other day Josh was cleaning out the garage and every time I walked out there I looked at the order at which he was dealing with the massive mess and it took everything in me to not say anything. After all, he wasn't doing it wrong. He was just doing it different than the way I would do it. The end result was the same. A clean, organized garage, with enough room to play ping-pong. Goal achieved.
I suppose that being emotionally invested doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to be OCD about something. Obviously I am emotionally invested in my dad's cancer and the way it effects my family. However, because I live in a different house, 15 minutes away, and see my parents once or twice a week I do get to be emotionally distant to some extent. That can even help with the advice. Any sort of distance can lend perspective. That is why couples "take a break" or have a "trial separation". If you distance yourself from a situation you are able to see it more clearly.
I guess the moral of this blog is that if you need any advice I'm sure I can give it (but you maybe shouldn't take it). I may not have my shit together (as my over thinking proves) but the fact that I am emotionally distant from you means that I might be just what you need to solve any problem you may have. After all. I only OCD my life. Not yours